I recently saw a shared post on Facebook that was from the account of Jonathan Kestenbaum, who lives in Yerushalayim and photographs images of daily life there. In the post, Kestenbaum was in a restaurant when he noticed an impeccably-dressed couple who were staring at their phones while waiting for their food and then proceeded to eat their meal in complete silence. They barely looked at each other, and Kestenbaum noticed that they hadn’t smiled the entire meal. At the end of the meal, the woman turned to her husband and uttered one word: “Selfie?” The man shrugged as his wife proceeded to make sure her hair was in place, then she sat in his lap and wrapped her arms around him, and this beautiful couple pressed their faces together and smiled for the picture.
Kestenbaum pointed out that although this selfie would be sure to get a ton of likes and comments on social media, as it displayed a well-coiffed couple who were clearly in love, only he had seen the truth behind the facade.
Social media is a place for our best moments, whether they are mired in truth or not. When a gorgeous family picture is posted, no one know how many tries it took to get this vision of perfection, nor what happened immediately before or after...when the kids were pinching each other and needed to be threatened to behave, or the baby was bawling and needed bribed to sit still, or the woman realized that her husband had brought the wrong diaper bag without the toddler’s extra change of clothes that he just had an accident in. Social media is pure fiction...and yet, it is what we are constantly exposing ourselves to, comparing ourselves to, and making ourselves think that everyone else has it all together when our own lives are a mess.
This is false. We all know it, yet it is hard to remember when our minds are flooded with images of perfection. Yes, there are moments of glory in life, but our day-to-day is not usually so perfect. That’s what Nashim Magazine is all about—real women and their real struggles. I hope that you can find yourself in these articles, in a much more realistic way. Let’s stop comparing ourselves to fictional lives. Let’s start breaking down the vision of perfection we think we ought to be. The truer we are to ourselves, the more we will find others we can relate to on a real level, and the better of a community we can build.
So many important issues are discussed in this issue, such as the struggle with body image in Mirel Adler’s The Scale and Yaffi Lvova’s It’s Not a Lifestyle. It’s a Diet, the pain of pregnancy loss in Sara Esther Crispe’s The Empty Sac, the journey to define one’s self as a woman—even without a man—in Tzipora Zelmanowitz’s I Am More than My Relationship Status, and the agony of losing someone close to you in Jordana Baruchov’s Letter to My Dearest Friend. There are also numerous articles on issues that come up in marriage, parenting, figuring out your place in the world, managing healthy (and unhealthy) friendships, and how to juggle self-care.
Enjoy this issue, full of real life—I hope you find your people here!
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